Online dating seems to be the way to meet people now a days, since a lot of people just don’t like clubbing anymore. I use to go clubbing when I was younger, but I was not looking for a husband there, nor was I ready for marriage in those days. I just wanted to figure out my likes and dislikes. When I got to my mid twenties after a bad break up I knew what I didn’t want, which only brought me closer to what I did want. While I was waiting for my King, I took some time to discover what I really wanted.
When I figured I was ready for marriage I started to look, but by then I was not into clubbing anymore and decided to take God more seriously. I started going back to church, but wasn’t really optimistic about meeting someone in church simply because there were about 12 women to 1 man and I knew my odds were slim. I remember thinking back then, how on earth am I going to meet someone. Then I thought maybe I’ll meet someone at work since I am on the road all the time.
Well I didn’t meet anyone that I wanted to date at work or at church. In 2010 I went to Atlanta to visit some friends and one of my friends mentioned online dating. Now my mother has been telling me to try online dating for years, but I always thought online dating was for desperate people. Boy was I wrong! My girlfriend went on to tell me how many great guys she had met online. Then she startd showing me some of the guys. I thought, what do I have to loose. So when I got back home I tried a free website called Plentyoffish. Doesn’t the name just make you chuckle? This was the site my girlfriend had been meeting these great guys.
I was shocked at how much I liked online dating. It was great! You fill out a profile and the site matches you with guys with similar interests. What I really liked is that I didn’t have to go out and meet guys that I didn’t like. You know what I am talking about ladies. When you go to the grocery store or the mall and a guy comes up to you and gives you a compliment, which is always nice by the way, but then you realize the compliment was only because he wanted your number. You know you’re not interested, but because you don’t want to be rude you stay and talk to him for 5 minutes.
No more of that online, if you don’t like what you see you just keep it moving. Now I am not talking abut being shallow or anything like that. I know it’s what’s on the inside that counts, but there are a few things that are deal breakers for me such as smoking, a guy with kids, and a non christian. Online you can filter those guys out immediately.
I actually met some great guys on PoF including hubby. Hubby was actually the fourth guy that I dated on PoF. It was just my luck I guess. It was my first time ever trying online dating and I ended up meeting my husband within two months of signing up. Who would have thought! I guess it was just my time. Since I met hubby I have told everyone I know that is single and looking for a long term relationship about PoF. Unfortunately my friends haven’t been having the same kind of luck that I had, but I keep telling them not to give up and just keep on looking. Their King is out there too!
Some of my friends have gone on some of the paid sites, which I don’t know if I would have done, simply because I am just cheap. It’s really for no other reason than that. Besides there are free sites out there, so I would have probably tried all of the free ones first.
How about you, would you or have you tried online dating? Also would you pay?